Mon. Sep 24, 2007 | 1:13 PM

Divorce Panel

You're in a great relationship. He just might be "the one." So how can you be sure he's marriage material?

Psychotherapist Dr. Garry Corgiat says you should approach your relationship like a business. It might not be the most romantic idea, but treating your mate like a business partner just might work. Here are some ideas to think about before taking the marriage plunge.

1. Is this the kind of person you would want to open a business with? Could you run a company together? If not, he's probably not the right guy.
2. Does he communicate?
3. Is he a team player?
4. Does he have a good work ethic?
5. Can he handle finances?

Think About Money

The intimacy might be great, but you're not going to think about what happens between the sheets if you find out you're in financial trouble. Money coach Lynnette Khalfani says the number one thing people need to do is check their partner's FICO score. That three digit number tells you just how how financially healthy your partner is (or isn't) and you can decide how to move forward from there.

Make A Decision to Love

Father Ken Deasy says you have to commit to love. If you decide to love, you'll always have to work on compassion.


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I cant seem to get the questions for the quiz to pull up on my computer from todays show, what were they?
Posted by jackie 09/25/07 9:11 AM
 
I would like to say that I totally disagree with my score from the test. I am a 23 year old woman who has been married to my 23 year old husband now for 3 years.We only scored a 2, but to think we are doomed for divorce would be going against our faith in the Lord. In the beggining we had alot of problems with his family not liking me. I had gotten fed up and was going to leave him. On Christmas Day when our son was 6 weeks old after his Christening Cermony my Pastor prophetside to us the the Lord said "I am going to fix all the problems that you are going through with your in-laws because, no man can destroy what I have put together". Thus said the Lord, speaking through the mouth of his prophet.It has been fixed, and we are happier than ever.
Posted by Telia 09/25/07 9:11 AM
 
i scored a one! no good. and me and my fiance are planning on getting married next year. were both young and i don't want to follow my parents foot steps so i am very careful. but the test doesn't agree...love the show tyra! watch it everyday when im getting ready for work!
Posted by Malorie 09/25/07 9:09 AM
 
Hi Tyra, I just started watching your show this season and I love it. Today you talked about marriage and what the preist said about alot of people don't realize it is hard work is right I have been married since I was 17 and am still with my husband after 10 years married and 13 together and there are ups and downs but we always seem to work through are problems. So you know I think I scored a 0 on your test but so did my husband maybe that is why we are so good for each other, we are also complete opposites. I beleive that if it is what you really want you can make anything work. Just like Emily that posted I could go on and on about my husband, but I won't. I think your guest should take to heart some of the advice that was given to them and hopefully make the right choice for them.
Posted by Cheryl 09/25/07 9:08 AM
 
for once i think this show was dumb for the information given from cosmo magazine. I am 20 my husband is 22 and we've been married for a year. He attended college for alittle and i didn't, my parents are divorced, his are together, and we are religious, and didnt get married because of getting pregant, in fact no kids in the future for another year or two. We make about 40,000 a year and i just wanted to give some advice, people who make over 50,000 a year either are lucky, or work to much (one person) i can't stand families who are gone from 7am until 6-7 pm, thers no time for your spouse and or children, money isn't everything and it really doesnt effect our marriage, we love our lifes. As for if your parents are divorced is another thing i disagree with, my parents are chain smokers, so that made me never want to pick up a ciggarett and i never have, my parents are divorced so that makes me never want to go through one, so really what your parents do doesnt reflect upon you unless you let it and giveu p and just think " well it happened to my parents why not me" i'm glad people scored over a 8 but for people under that don't give up that test was b.s and if your in love go for it, just always talk about everything never keep anything in.
Posted by Courtney 09/25/07 9:06 AM
 
Hey Tyra, I love this esisope and I took your quiz and I got a six. I am only 19 and I have been with my fiance for 3 yrs but we don't plan on getting married til at least I finish college. It has been an obstacle not just because of our age but we also have a little baby boy who is only 8 months old. I support my fiance 100 percent and he supports me. We are always told we won't make it but they don't know us we are IN love and we are best friends both are parents are still married, he makes over 50,000, and I attend college. I think your show had great advice and no matter how perfect you think your relationship is there is always room to work on it. So I loved that show!
Posted by Brittany 09/25/07 8:33 AM
 
I agree with the show. There is an 18 year age diffrence between me and my husband and four out of the five areas are why we are having so much trouble. I want to finish my masters he has not been to college so there is strife. Our income is well below 50 thousand, neither of our parents are married. he has very little respect for my mom and that causes alot of arguments even effects him wanting our daughter to visit her. To tell the truth we have been married going on two years and i worry that we wont make it. all we have is church that gives us connection. everything else is an argument. even that is being effected because he recently going into minstry is an added stress because i look at him preaching to others and wonder how can he help anyone when our home is falling apart and i don't even like hearing him preach anymore. You all are right he is wondering where the falling in love stage went and i am wondering can we love eachother.
Posted by molcha 09/25/07 8:15 AM
 
Hey girl, how are you? You are my favorite model and now tv host... never saw that coming:). I love your show and you inspire me to strive for the best and I am striving to get out of this 9 to 5 so I can enjoy my work in fashion and interior design. I watched the show today in bits and pieces cause I'm at work. SHHH! I enjoyed it, am not married and have never been and I so believe what you and your guests had to say. To both of those couples: It takes two to make a thing go right and if you both are not in it to win it, not only will life be harder it will be harder to find solutions. Think before you leap! Have a blessed day...
Posted by MsE 09/25/07 8:11 AM
 
Ok I watched the show and took the quiz and I have to say that I don't believe it. I scored a 0. My parents are divorced, I haven't attended college although I want too, we don't make enough money (that's for sure), neither of us have a religous affiliation, and we got married when I was 24 and he was 23. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and together for almost 10. Yes we've had a VERY rocky road were we've split up and gotten back together, we've fought (ALOT) over money and families. Through it all though (even splitting up) we've remained each others best friend. Three years ago I would have said that we were heading for divorce but now we're stronger than ever. Obstacles can be overcome but it takes patience, compromise, understanding, and the big one COMMUNICATION!!! Hope this can help someone else. It can happen but it's not easy that's for sure. Also just wanted to say Support your military men and women because their jobs aren't easy and they do it for you!!! (Husband is Navy and right now deployed for iraq) God Bless!!
Posted by Samantha 09/25/07 7:51 AM
 
Hi Tyra, I scored a 9. It seems that I'm on the right track. I plan to marry prior to turning 30. I plan to have kids prior to 30 as well. I only have a little more time. I really enjoyed the show today! Keep up the great work!
Posted by Angela 09/25/07 7:51 AM
 
Hi,I really love watching you love you will you mind if we become friends and charting through email.Im from Tanzania,it's East Africa. Please reply when you get time.Good day
Posted by rose 09/25/07 3:35 AM
 
hi tyra, im from the Philippines and i love watching your show even if i've never been to your country. The discussions you have helps me face life's trial and i've overcome insecurities in me. Thank you so much!!! more power to your show and i hope to see you in person
Posted by hannarae 09/25/07 2:58 AM
 
Hello Tyra, Let me start by saying this season is off to a great start! I must say my final score for the test was a perfect 10. My husband and I have been married for 11 months and after having a beautiful church wedding last year we are headed to Las Vegas to get married again this weekend. I really married the right guy. I'm not saying we don't disagree or argue, but when we do we fix things immediately. I could go on & on about him, but before I do I will say the show was very informative. I hope the guest really listen to the advice given because it was good.
Posted by Emily 09/24/07 8:08 PM



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