Mon. Sep 24, 2007 | 1:13 PM

Divorce Panel

You're in a great relationship. He just might be "the one." So how can you be sure he's marriage material?

Psychotherapist Dr. Garry Corgiat says you should approach your relationship like a business. It might not be the most romantic idea, but treating your mate like a business partner just might work. Here are some ideas to think about before taking the marriage plunge.

1. Is this the kind of person you would want to open a business with? Could you run a company together? If not, he's probably not the right guy.
2. Does he communicate?
3. Is he a team player?
4. Does he have a good work ethic?
5. Can he handle finances?

Think About Money

The intimacy might be great, but you're not going to think about what happens between the sheets if you find out you're in financial trouble. Money coach Lynnette Khalfani says the number one thing people need to do is check their partner's FICO score. That three digit number tells you just how how financially healthy your partner is (or isn't) and you can decide how to move forward from there.

Make A Decision to Love

Father Ken Deasy says you have to commit to love. If you decide to love, you'll always have to work on compassion.


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IMPORTANT TO READ THIS COMMENT: I took the quiz, before I say my score let me say I have been married almost 4 years now, just before my anniversary next month I will be turning 24. I got married one week after my 20th birthday, a month and a half after my husbands 20th birthday. We are of the same religion, we've known each other since we were toddlers but we hated each other until we were 19 and actually took time to get to know each other. Exactly one year after we became friends we got married. My husband and I have a better relationship than any of our friends, all other married couples we know fight, scream, hit, and talk bad about each other. We don't, we have a relationship that many friends have flat out said they are jelous of. What score did I get, 3, thats right 3, I'm in the doomed category. This just goes to show that a magazine quiz is NOT reliable, what matters is how commited you are in your relationship. If you took the quiz and got a low score don't rush out and break up with your significant other, instead talk to them about how commited you both are to sticking to this through thick and thin. If your not commited completly then reconsider, if you are commited then don't let a silly magizine quiz keep you from a happy life with the one you love.
Posted by Amber 09/25/07 11:14 AM
 
I want to leave a comment about you doomed for divorce quiz. I THINK YOU WERE WRONG DOING THIS BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR TWO YEARS. I GOT MARRIED WHEN I WAS 18 AND I ABSOLUTLY LOVE MY HUSBAND WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH THICK AND THIN AND ARE STILL TOGETHER. HE HAS BEEN TO IRAQ AND THIS IS HIS SENCOND TIME GOING. WE HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER TOGETHER. SO I THINK YOUR IDEA OF "ARE YOU DOOMED FOR DIVORCE" WAS JUST A RUDE THING TO USE ON YOUR SHOW IT MAKES A LOT OF PEOPLE WONDER ABOUT THEIR MARRIAGES WHEN THEY SHOULDNT BE BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT THEY ARE HAPPY. I LIKE A LOT OF YOUR SHOWS BUT THIS ONE WAS WRONG AND IT MAKES ME WONDER IF I WANT TO WATCH YOUR SHOW AGAIN!!!!
Posted by Jessica 09/25/07 11:02 AM
 
I would like to suggest that the show follow the two couples on today's show to see if they get married, and if married how long before divorce?
Posted by Clyde 09/25/07 11:01 AM
 
Real good show today. I feel you need a better person to represent the religious aspect of marriage. Like no sex before marriage and shacking. If you are going to talk about marriage, tell it all. Much Respect.
Posted by Willie 09/25/07 10:58 AM
 
Hello tyra, well i am planing of getting marry my boyfriend ask me to marry him 3 years ago,and we live together, we have a beutiful baby girl together, and i am still thinking if he is the one, he is a great dad, a good lover, he is perfect to me, but he has allots of bad habbits, we pass tru bad situashion and good situashions together, we got separate 3 moths ago and he wants to get back, he is been in jail for 2 moths and half, and he sad that he realyse the wonderful person I am, and he wants me to wait for him, i love him to dead, i know that he is going to change but i am scare of him doing the same mistake again and i dont know what to do, the problem with him is alcohol... and i dont know what does jail does to a person if he will change for good or for bad, i need some one to tell me if there is a chance so i can get my self together and wait for him. I think we will be a good relationship but does jail changes a person for bad? I will thank you allot if you just give me an advice. Love, jeanette
Posted by Jeanette 09/25/07 10:48 AM
 
Hi Tyra I just wanted to say I think your quiz is not accurate. It shouldn't matter if your parents are still married, if your religious, or how much money you make...love comes from the heart, not by these environmental things. Hopefully you get a clue.
Posted by Samantha 09/25/07 10:43 AM
 
Tyra, Hey girl, I'm 31 and me and my fience have been engaged for going on 4 yrs. I keep putting off the wedding because I'm not sure if he is the right one. I scored a 4 on the test you gave today. Up until Jan of this year we made over 60 thousand a year and we were the same as we are now. I'm actually the one ready for the commitment but I don't feel as if he is ready. I don't think he loves me as much as he is telling me he does, just because if I ask him to do something he will make a promise to do it but then break that promise. What should I do? I love him with all my heart but I still question his love. I Love your show and watch it everyday. You go girl.
Posted by Nelli 09/25/07 10:42 AM
 
Hi Tyra: How are you doing? I saw the show this morning. This episode was very informative. I am 36yrs old and single. I took the quiz even though I don't have a lady in my life and I scored a 5. It is my opinion that the two couples on the show today should not be together let alone get married because they don't know each other and they have to many different point of views. These two couples have to many issues to work out individually to be a couple together. Thanks Tyra! Love Jason
Posted by Jason 09/25/07 10:23 AM
 
Hi Tyra: How are you doing? I saw the show this morning. This episode was very informative. I am 36yrs old and single. I took the quiz even though I don't have a lady in my life and I scored a 5. It is my opinion that the two couples on the show today should not be together let alone get married because they don't know each other and they have to many different point of views. These two couples have to many issues to work out individually to be a couple together. Thanks Tyra! Love Jason
Posted by Jason 09/25/07 10:19 AM
 
I took the quiz while watching the show, and I am not impressed with the results. My husband and I have been married for four months, and neither of us has ever been happier. We both completed college, we each make more than $50,000 a year, neither of our parents have been divorced, we attend church and have a wonderful relegious base, but I am 24. Because of this we automatically get a 7. This quiz doesn't take in to account the particular person, it is simply based on statistics. While I do know the importance of statistics (math minor) I do not think they are the end all be all of whether a couple is going to stay together. I just hope everyone who is taking the quiz realizes this fact and does not believe that a 2 means they're doomed or that a 10 means that they're perfect. Statistics are based on the average person, not on you specifically.
Posted by Julie 09/25/07 10:09 AM
 
hi? i havent sow the show but i like your shows very much, i admire you and everyone that support your show.you are doing a great job hope oneday to see you.
Posted by francinna 09/25/07 9:50 AM
 
I took the test while the show was on, but I missed some of the answers. Is it possible to get the answers and points for each question? I tried to pull up the quiz but I can't.
Posted by Stephanie 09/25/07 9:37 AM
 
:( i missed the show for the second time in 2 days! but i was watching ANTM and that's why... but i love the show so much !
Posted by crista 09/25/07 9:26 AM
 
Hey Tyra girl!!!! Ive been meaning to comment and write for the longest, but i was gonna write an essay stating how much i admire you and love you, for you and all that you are doing. I could go on for days!! I was reading previous commments and one of the girls below me asked if you would mind being her friend! lol! I thought that was really cute and in my mind i said "I want her to be my friend too!" lol! I love you, i think your a super-amazing person. Your show is completly wonderful! My friend and I are Tyra show fanatics! Lots of times, i can't and don't even answer my phone if your show is on! Anyways, back to this topic, Ive always dreamt of the day of marriage, not just the dress up time, but the struggling to overcome whatever challenge that may present itself, and then achieving victory in the end. I scored a 7 on the test, so of course i have a little work, lol, but still on my way to becoming.... a bride! lol! love you lots girl! Hope to hear back from you soon!
Posted by Ryan 09/25/07 9:20 AM
 
Please,dont for a minute think Iam passing judgement on Heather but for her to say she did not know if she could take care of Alan if he was in a accicent,first off if you love someone unconditionally better or for worse you dont bail on someone when things get tough she is not ready to get married she showed signs of being selfish
Posted by joselyn 09/25/07 9:15 AM



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